“There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it behooves us all not to talk about the rest of us.” Robert Louis Stevenson.
I had a dear friend whose mom used to quote this to her quite often. My friend very rarely said anything negative about people. She had been hurt and done wrong many times, even by those she loved. However, she was the most tender-hearted forgiving person I’ve ever known. She seemed to love everybody and have something good to say about everyone.
Then I have known some people whowere fault finders. ‘Seems like they couldfind a fault in anyone. In looking for faults in others, we lose sight of the good around us. It serves to blind us to our wrongdoing. It’s a vicious cycle destroying people, relationships, and our well-being; physically, mentally, and spiritually.
“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?” (Matthew 7:3)
You may feel good about yourself for a moment, but you will become unhappy afterward. Keep it up, and you’ll become bitter, like an autoimmune disease attacking its own body.
If I ask God to show me the errors of my ways, I don’t see nearly as many faults in others. If I do, I am less likely to bring attention to them.
“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalms 139:23-24)
At Jesus’ trial, the High Priest asked, “What think ye? They answered and said, He is guilty of death.” (Matthew 26:66)
After questioning Jesus, Pilate declared, “I find no fault in him,” yet the crowd still called for his crucifixion. (John 19:4)
I find no fault in Him either, and I’m not looking for it elsewhere.